Recently I had a coffee date with a close friend. It was our first time seeing each other in the new year so I was very excited. Of course the first question we asked each other was “how are things going?” She responded it’s going good. She didn’t stop there though (with a surface answer), she went deeper. What she told me was so good that as I was writing this I texted her for the exact words she said and here they are…

“ I’m trying to be mindful about allowing God to speak through me in the changes and resolutions this year. Instead of trying to be all “ New Year, New Me!” And change over night. I think sometimes I get so caught up in the image or vision of where and who I want to be and rush ahead of what God is trying to do in me. When I strive to quickly reach that end goal, I forget to listen to God throughout the transformation. If I’m being honest, the change doesn’t stick because the pace I’ve set has caused me to fail to learn what He’s trying to teach me. I think I get so caught up in the idea that I’m falling behind that I actually rush ahead of God and His timing. This year I’m trying to keep in step with Him.”
— The Coolest Girl I Know

First off, before I go any further how awesome is this women! I sat there trying to keep my mouth shut lol, but I was in awe.

Yes, Yes, Yes! I said in my mind!! What an awesome perspective to have. This made so much sense to me and even after we left I could not stop thinking about what she had said. Now mind you we talked for almost an hour after this about twenty different topics and that comment was still throbbing in my head. I KNEW I HAD TO GO DEEPER.

Quinika I think you should have that same perspective going forward. I think you should work on making me apart of all the details of your life. The Holy Spirit spoke these words to me early the next morning during my reading time. I began to think “not a step without you. I want to go at your pace.”

As I continued to read in Psalm the word Selah was flashing boldly . Now I’ve seen the word before while reading but never knew what it meant. So I looked it up and after lots of research I found that the definition of Selah has some uncertainty. Most believe that the word is a musical direction meaning to “pause” or “to praise.”

This hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized in that moment that in order to truly hear and do what God wants me to do I have to pause 100 times more. That I needed to understand that my relationship with God is not a one way road, meaning that I do all the talking and He does all the listening. That I only have access to Him but He has no way of getting to me.

Just like in music there are pauses written in so that the singers can get a breath in, we have to do the same with our relationship with Christ. We have to pause to hear His voice. When we pause we get direction, comfort, ideas and vision. That’s priceless.

With that being said I set out on a mission to pause more. Not just on the big things either. I’m talking about everything from what lipstick to wear, to what color balloon to pick out, to my future. The more I do it the more I hear His voice even clearer. He loves us so much that He delights in all things we do, the small and the big. Psalm 37:23 (TPT) says: “the steps of the God-pursuing ones follow firmly in the footsteps of the Lord, and God delights in every step they take to follow Him.

I (we) are pursuing God by pausing and listening to His every word. He delights in that. That means when we stop and listen it pleases Him greatly. Now trust me I know I will not be perfect every time, but in the very next verse He gives us the answer for when we fall short. Psalm 37:24 (TPT) says: “ If they stumble badly they will still survive, for the Lord lifts them up with His hands.”

This is not about being perfect, this is about a pursuit to know what He wants for our everyday lives. He created us, He knows what our purpose is. He knows our end from the very beginning so why not sit back and listen to His instructions. The message version puts this into perspective in Isaiah 46:10 “ I am God, the only God you’ve had or ever will have - incomparable, irreplaceable - From the beginning telling you what the ending will be, All along letting you in on what is going to happen, Assuring you, ‘ I’ll do exactly what I set out to do’.

It’s done, it’s already planned and mapped out by our creator. All it takes is us walking in the foot prints He sets before us. I’ve learned in just this little time that my joy is more constant because of my two way communication with Christ.

So let’s start asking, let’s start pausing and listening. Without His direction we’re just wondering through life and time is to precious to waste.

Quinika Benton