Boo'd Up

This post may be deep, but I pray that it helps someone. Let me be clear before I go on. This is not a blog about “ I’m in a relationship with Christ and I don’t need anybody else.” This post is the furthest thing from that. This is about how I’m learning the more I give God all my love the more I learn how to love others. Through loving Him, the love I give becomes priceless. If your single, dating, married this post is for you.

I lost hope of being boo’d up again. When you think of a heart you imagine a robust red, maybe rainbows and the kissy face emoji. If you could see my heart months ago you would have seen it was red but not the pretty red. It was hard, cold, and had scars covering it entirely. I lost my hope of being boo’d up again. One day I was riding in the car with my sister and she played this song called Boo’d Up by Ella Mai. I immediately got mad, “ turn that off, I don’t want to listen to anything about love lol,” she looked at me crazy and turned it off. In that moment I realized that not only did I sound silly but I was pushing away the one thing that I was created to do, love. From that car ride on I started my mission to stop pushing away love and began to relearn how to love. I wanted to put my heart back together again so I went to the one who created it.

Below I’m going to walk you through the bible verses that have helped me through this process. There’s a theme to this lesson and I’ll let you in on it now. In order to get your heart back to its original state we have to love God first. In others words, we need to be boo’d up with Christ. Before we look at the verses, what does being boo’d up mean?

Boo’d Up:

  1. To be in a relationship with someone.

  2. Getting serious or going to the next level with your significant other.

The more we get boo’d up with God first the more our heart will start to come back to it’s original state. I’m not saying this because this is what I think. I’m saying this because through my process I found that God requires us to love Him not only first but with all that we are. He requires us to go to another level with Him. Here are some verses that explain.

Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that’s in you, love Him with all you’ve got!
— Deuteronomy 6: 5 (MSG)

Deuteronomy 6: 5 is Moses talking to the Israelites before they entered the promise land. In the verses leading up to 5 he explains “ Do what your told so that you’ll have a good life, a life of abundance and bounty, just as God promised, in a land abounding in milk and honey. “ The very next thing he said was instructions to love God with their whole heart. The more I read it, it sounds so easy, love God. It takes constant focus to love God before everything in this world. That’s why Moses is getting there attention before they go into the beautiful promise land. He’s trying to warn them, don’t let what you see push you away from the one that got you here. Remember to love Him first and all that you see and the life you live will be abundant. The distractions aren’t going anywhere but it’s our job to build up strength to continuously put God above everything else. He gave His son so that we could live. You know that saying “ Your worth dying for,” He was the originator of that phrase. So I began to think to myself “ I owe it all to you, so please help and direct me as I do.” It’s okay to ask for help!

Jesus said, “‘ Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence. ‘ This is the most important, the first on any list. But there is a second to set alongside it: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ These two commands are pegs; everything in God’s law and the Prophets hangs from them”
— Matthew 22: 37-40 (MSG)

This verse is a religious scholar asking Jesus which command in God’s Law is the most important. He says “Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT. That’s a lot. That literally everything that I am God. How am I even capable of doing this? This is the very question I asked God after reading this verse. The answer I got was, it becomes easier but you have to start giving the first to me and the rest will follow. The same way you love others, I want you to give me that first.

You know how over time the longer your with someone you really can’t see life without them. That’s the same thing that happens when we spend time with God. We become dependent on Him and the relationship that we’ve built with Him. I’ve become addicted to our relationship. I truly believe that when we put are relationship with Him first everything else will follow. In Matthew 6: 33 (NIV) “ But seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you as well.” When we put our relationship with Him first everything else comes with it. That means that we’ll love better, live better and know Him better.


I’ve realized while writing this blog that it needs to be broken up into two parts. We have to chew on this and get it down in our hearts. I’m not done yet. The second part will come out next week. Until then let’s remember that first before anything, we should be boo’d up with Christ and then every relationship in our lives will be 100 times better. You got this, it’s a process.


Quinika BentonComment